Why do people always have to act fake? Because no matter how much you try to pretend that you don’t, almost everybody does it. People hide the things that make them vulnerable, the things that can hurt them and they highlight the things that make them great. Almost every conversation between people is made of small talk about the happy things in our lives while ignoring the things that really matter most.
But how does this help us? How can you get close to somebody when the only things that they know about you are the basis, happy, fun parts that you portray. When you hide every real emotion that you have between thick walls made of a fake smiles and happy stories.
And I’m not saying the happy parts aren’t important, because they are but when did people decide that the sad parts should be ignored? They are just as important aren’t they? They are just as much a part of us as the happy parts so what makes us hide?
Personally I think it’s a fear to trust. We hate the thought of other people having a power over us, the power to hurt us. So we don’t give it to them, we pretend to be completely happy, with nothing bothering us, so others can’t hurt us with the things that are bothering us. But wouldn’t it be better to try to trust?
And I know that trusting people can go wrong, but that doesn’t mean that you should stop trying. I can’t guarantee that you won’t get hurt and I know from personal experience how hard it is to open up, but it can help you in so many ways. You become closer to somebody and you get to express what you are feeling.
I think sharing is a much better way to communicate because no one can survive solely on “how are you? I’m fine” conversations. People should try to be more real with each other because while it may hurt sometime, it does make you a better person.