Respect or Popularity

Respect or Popularity? Which one of these things do you consider most important. Because they are not the same. The definition of respect is “A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements”  while popularity is described as “The state or condition of being liked, admired, or supported by many people”  And while these definitions may seem close to eachother, in reality they are anything but.

Because you can be popular without being respected or even liked. Popularity can be reached by having the best clothes, richest parents and or the biggest power base. And it’s nice, feeling popular, or even the most popular. People copy you in things like your clothing style and sometimes they even look up to you. It’s the idea of being admired, or sometimes even loved that can be addicting.

But while it’s  a nice idea, it really isn’t that amazing if you don’t have something like respect to accompany it, and sometimes it isn’t even real. Because something like popularity can be taken away in a blink. If you make one simple mistake and you let your guard down for a minute somebody could take your spot.

That’s different with respect. You are respected because of the things you achieve, the choices you made when things got tough or the battles you fought (either physically or mentally). It doesn’t get less when somebody new or more pretty comes into the spotlight and it can never be only an idea. It’s something that’s earned.

Ofcourse there are different kinds of respect. Firstly you have the respect that you get from people, the respect that you earn by the way you treat them or the things you’ve achieved. Important ofcourse, but to me there’s one kind of respect that’s really required in somebody’s life.

And that’s self-respect. The ability to look at yourself in the mirror everyday and being able to face the person that’s standing there.  The fact that you can live with yourself and the choices you made even if they were hard ones. Because if I lost that, I really wouldn’t know what to do with myself.

And I’m not saying that being respected by others isn’t important in your life, because it is. But at the end of the road, I want to be able to face myself and the choices I made without too much regret. And any kind of respect, either to yourself or from/to others, is more important to me than respect. Because while I, like many others, would sometimes like the idea of popularity, I would rather be respected for the things I’ve done.


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