I recently noticed something and faced me with an ethical dilemma. When I have to go to class in I have to take the bus. Normally the bus isn’t really crowded and you can almost always sit alone with no one next to you. Only when I have to take the bus early is the bus crowded, my stop is fairly early so most of the time I can sit on my own for like five minutes and then somebody comes sit next to me. I hate it when somebody comes sit next to me, they almost always smell or have very loud music in their ears.
But I month ago I suddenly noticed that it took way longer for somebody to go and sit next to me, I was almost at central when finally somebody went to sit next to me. I started to worry, did I smell? Was my hair a mess? The next time I sat in a crowded bus it didn’t happen, but the time after that it happened again. So I started thinking “what could it be?” and I found that when I sat with my legs crossed and looked generally more “gay” people would rather sit next to somebody else than next to me.
Now I came with a dilemma. Of course, it’s sucks that people don’t really want to sit next to you, but I can sit on my own. Is this something I am allowed to exploit? Am I allowed to look more “gay” on the bus just so people don’t want to sit next to me? I hate the fact that people would rather distance them from something that looks gay, but I can’t change it. So why not use it?
It is not that I accuse the people on the bus of discrimination, it is normal for people to fear things they don’t know. If people don’t come that much in contact with homosexuals or bisexuals (like me) they don’t know it that well.
I don’t know if this is something I am allowed to exploit. I shouldn’t use the wrongs in the world to my benefit, but it is not that I am hurting anyone with it.